Posts tagged ‘mirror’

July 12, 2012

It IS About Me

by pastortimfowler

Most of them are good attitudes, but from time to time, some attitudes get negative, including my own. This is the third line from yesterday’s blog. Why did I start with it today? Because I have been blasted from people telling me that it was inappropriate to talk about other people like that. DUH…It IS about me. I was saying that even a beloved pastor can get self-centered and if I can do it, I bet you can too. (Not a good thing)
I consider myself to be the most blessed pastor in the world. My church is full of people who “get it”. They love everyone that walks through the doors regardless of how the look, color, age, or any other descriptive characteristics. They make our church a great place for people to come and feel loved and relaxed and that leads to many people coming to know Jesus. That is the most important thing in the world, not how you or I feel. And that was the purpose of the whole blog yesterday.
It is so easy to get our feelings hurt or feel like someone is stepping on our toes. As a very confident pastor, I have a vision and a direction for my church that I truly believe God gave to me. The reason I believe this is because people come to our church and then come to know Jesus every Sunday. We don’t do a show of wealth or fluffy, feel good sermons. We are modern and our band is awesome and yes, we use some lights while they are playing, but other than that, things rely on God using us to love others. For those of us who have been in church a long time, we can often get our feelings hurt if we feel like we are being neglected or our territory is being invaded or our leadership is being questioned. That is often the time of the much-needed attitude check. And so, I had to check mine.
Sometimes we need to trust that the leaders that God has put in our lives are not only thinking about themselves when they have to put their foot down about a situation. Just like CEO of a company, the pastor is overseeing the big picture and every day is thinking about how to stay heading in the right direction. Sometimes those who work in a specific area, miss how the big picture is effected by what they do. Sometimes the pastor must be firm in staying a course and when that happens, this pastor, can be less than tactful. The old saying, “It’s not what you say but how you say it” comes to mind in this case. I don’t feel like I said anything wrong, but I sure wish I had checked the attitude sooner and said it better.
God loves His people, even those who screw up. He knows that we will never be perfect and therefore, He gives us grace. I love that and need that and I try to model that. But God also does not put up with our inappropriate behavior and will be blunt and to point in correcting us. It is at that time that we can either check our attitude and learn or we can continue to be self-centered and lose sight of the big picture. I am far from being God, but I am sure of the vision, this big picture, that God has given me and the direction our church is going. Too many people are coming to know Jesus for us to be doing too much that He does not like from His church.
It is about me though. I love me and you know it. I am one of my favorite people. But I am not perfect and I admit it. For those who just had your bubble burst, I am sorry. Perfection was Jesus, I am only His servant. If someone took yesterday’s blog to be about you, then maybe you should look in the mirror. If your mirror is foggy, it is not my fault. I am looking in mine and trying to find the Windex to clean it off; ’cause when I look in my mirror and its dirty, it IS about me.

February 28, 2011

Looking like my dad

by pastortimfowler

Dad and son

My beautiful wife and I took the weekend to go see our youngest son and his wife in there new home a couple of hours away. He took a job that require them to relocate so we had not seen them in a couple of months and were excited about hanging out with them for a while.

We were all sitting around in their living room talking when his wife said something about how much my son looked like the wife’s side of the family. Now I had always thought he was different, but never said it. My other two kids seem to look more like their dear old dad and we call them the beautiful ones. (LOL)

My wife loves to take pictures but often forgets the camera. This time she remembered it and pictures were flying. As soon as we got home she posted them on Facebook where you can now see them free of charge. I was sitting there minding my own business by seeing what everyone else was doing through Facebook, when I saw the new pictures. That was when it hit me hard; I look SO much like my dad! I have always been told this and never really cared, but all of a sudden it was like my dad had come back to life and had his picture taken.

The funny thing is, several years ago, my other son was in my office looking at a picture on my wall of me and my dad when I was a kid. My son, said to me, ‘Dad, I don’t remember having this picture of us taken.’ He thought it was him and me, but when I told him that it was my dad and me he could not believe it.

I know that many kids look a lot like one parent or the other. It is not a freak of nature, it is simply nature. Not only do we often look a lot like our parents but we often act like them, for good or bad.

So many times in my life I have had people say to me that I was my father made over or that I act just like him.
Then today I was reading through the Bible and read about Mary as she was told that God would be the father of her baby. How he grew and became more and more like his father. I wonder how many times Mary said to Jesus, “You are just like you daddy!”?

You know what is funny? People who are Christians, (born again), have the same father as Jesus.
Wouldn’t it be cool if people said about us, “You act just like your Daddy!”? I am not sure how He looks, but I know I was created in His image, so God must be a tall, handsome, bald guy.

WOW! I look like my Dad!

Who do people see when they look at you? I know many see my dad, and I am okay with that. What I really want is for them to see my Heavenly Dad, God.