Posts tagged ‘laugh’

October 28, 2011

That Woman God Gave Me

by pastortimfowler

Okay, its time for me to do some flirting, or at least attempt to score a few brownie points, even though I don’t need them because she is already my favorite wife. Over the last couple of weeks I have seen a couple of moving stories about couples. One, long dead, was said to be 1500 years old and were buried holding hands, and the other was a couple who died holding hands after 72 years of marriage. WOW!
I have now been married longer than any of my children have been alive. As a matter of fact, I have been married longer than a lot of people in my congregation at my church. It will be 32 years this coming July and what is really weird is that I am still very young. I got married when I was a wee child of 18. If you are good at math, you can see that I am barely over 40 years old.
In my first church where I was pastor, there were lots of old people. At my current church there are not that many old people, but that’s another story. At that other church there were 4 couples who had been married for over 60 years. That was one of the highlights of that pastorate. I was always amazed at them and how much they still seemed to love each other. When I spent time with them, I always asked them to give me advice on how to keep my marriage together for that long, and remain as happy as they seemed. What they told me was not complicated and they all gave me the same four suggestions. Keep God in you marriage. Have fun and laugh at and with each other. Flirt so much that she/he never doubts that you find them attractive. Fight fair and make up quickly. After hearing these things, I immediately knew that I had a great chance of having a long marriage. Now all I have to do is not die soon.
I wish that I could say that I married my high school sweetheart and that we dated for years and were in church forever, but that is not true. I met her at a party, and we knew each other only 6 months before we got married. From the minute I saw her, I knew that I wanted to date her, of course I was only 17 and she was drop dead gorgeous and every other guy on the planet would want to date her too, but I wanted to date her right then. Thankfully, she was open to the idea of dating me and after a few months, I figured that I better lock this thing down before she realized what she was doing. So we got married and here it is almost 32 years later and she still has no idea what she has gotten herself into.
We have a great marriage. We love and serve God together. If I had to pastor a church without her, I probably wouldn’t. She is so gifted and humble and is a walking example of God’s grace. We have fun and laugh a lot. As different as we are, we purposefully do things together just for fun. She says that I am a comedian, but no one makes me laugh more than her. We flirt, I more than her. All she has to do is walk in the room and I think that she is flirting. I still by her flowers and candy for no specific reason, and she lets me stare at her. We fight. I would like to say we fight fair, but I am not sure if that would be true, but we do make up quickly. I hate it when she ignores me and she hates it when I act real stupid. So we still work on fighting fair, and for the most part, we do okay.
I love being married to her. I can’t imagine not having her around. I hope that we live to see our 80th wedding anniversary but if not, I hope that we have one of those stories that make people go awwww, when we kick the bucket. But mostly, I want to live a life in front of people that makes them want to be married. Marriage takes a bad rap these days and too many people are trying to find true love like they are test driving cars. True love doesn’t come until you have been married a while. The longer you are married, if you follow the advice from my friends, the greater your love will grow. And don’t think that all the fun ends with marriage and age. With greater love comes great joy and greater fun. My married life is better than ever, and it will probably only get better over the next 20 years or so. I am wildly, madly, passionately in love with my wife. Staying married to her is all the blessing I need. I am very grateful for that woman God gave me.

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October 13, 2011

I Got An Attitutde For Breakfast

by pastortimfowler

This morning I went into McD’s to get my free breakfast sandwich that I won playing the Monopoly game. I am that 1 in 4 who win. The girl who greeted me at the counter really effected me with her attitude. Attitudes can make or ruin, not only your day, but other’s day as well. She looked at me and asked me if she could take my order and of course I said yes. I said, “I want my free breakfast sandwich.” to which she responded, “I aint taken that thing.” I proceeded to let her know that I wanted hash browns and a medium drink and that my order would be to go. I then handed her my winning game piece and again she said, “I aint taken that.”
The reason that I went inside instead of going through the drive through was because there were about 15 cars at the drive through and no customers inside. If I went in, I could get my food and hopefully my next winning game piece and wave at the cars that I passed as I parked to go in. I did not go in to have someone tell me that they were not taking my winning game piece and especially to slow me down so that I might miss waving at the people who I passed in line at the drive through.
But then she had the nerve to call over the manager and say, “we aint take his game piece are we?” and the manager said no. Now this was not the winning game piece that made me a millionaire or even the one that gets me a new car, it was just a breakfast sandwich and I was hungry and in a hurry. Being the calm, cool, and level-headed guy that I am, I decided to stay calm and cool and ask the manager what the problem was. When I looked up to look her in the eye, they were both smiling and on the verge of laughing. Of course I did not let on that I was clueless to that fact that they had been joking, and began to laugh with them. After I got my breakfast sandwich, hashbrown and medium drink, I left with a smile on my face and showed it to everyone who I passed coming in, who was still waiting in the drive through lanes.
This was a great start to my day. The attitude that I encountered at 6:30am from a young lady in McD’s and her boss set the tone for the rest of my day. They shared a positive, funny attitude and I in turn shared it with the ones in the drive through lanes who were not getting a good attitude so early.
I was sitting here thinking about what my morning would have been like if this had been a bad attitude that I encountered. What if they really did not want to take my winning game piece? What if they had really made me go to Hardees instead? What if I had stayed in the drive through lane and gotten a bad attitude myself when someone drives by waving cause they went inside and beat me getting my food? I could have a bad attitude myself. But, instead I enjoyed a hot, fresh breakfast sandwich for free and because I am savvy, the medium drink and hash browns I got, they came with another chance for me to be that 1 in 4 to win. I smiled all the way to my office where I began to eat.
Now for the big winning opportunity….wait…is it? could it be? am I that 1 in 4 again? Nope, but at least my attitude is good and my day was brightened by someone who decided earlier that they would care to think about their attitude and would be positive and funny and share it with me.
I don’t know if this girl was a Christian or not, but it made me think of what the Bible tells Christians to do. Let your light shine before men so that it glorifies your Father in heaven. Positive attitudes are like shining lights. I think I am going to shine a little more today!

July 29, 2011

Going Inter-planetary

by pastortimfowler

I was blown away this morning when I opened an email response to a blog I wrote a couple of weeks ago. It was from England! It said that they were looking for help on a subject and did a search and my blog came up on top. Usually the only way my name or something I do comes up first is if I am getting blamed for something. So, I wanted to say thanks to everyone who read my blogs and to God for using me in something that I enjoy so much.
I can remember a few years back when I was really fighting the trend for tweeting, Facebook and blogging. It wasn’t that I was against them as much as I did not understand it all. For the record, I still don’t understand tweeting, but I continue to tweet. (I feel like a bird watcher every time I say that).
Blogging has gotten me several blasts from folks who disagree with what I write. Although I do try to speak the truth, blogging is just another way of voicing one’s opinion and we are all entitled to our own. My opinion is right and those who disagree with it are usually married to me, or vegan, or even people with hair, and God loves them too. But I enjoy the feedback no matter which side you are on.
One of my goals is to offer fuel for hope, and a bit of humor. I love to see and hear people laugh and I love it when people have to stop and think about something they thought little about before or even had firm feelings about something that now have to be at least given another look. Sometimes I purposefully blog about something that I know will ruffle feathers, but I never set out to hurt or offend and if you are ever offended by one of my blogs, get over it. See, humor, fact and hope, right there.
I never dreamed that anything I would say or write would ever have an impact on someone in England. I rarely ever thought anyone would care much outside of South Carolina or really, ever care at all. I hope this is nothing more than God showing me that He can still use any of His creatures to say something, even an ass, or me. (Referring to Balaam’s animal, nor what some of you gasped about).
I will never apologize for giving God glory, pointing to Him as the answer, or tell people about the God who allowed His Son Jesus Christ to die for the sins of humanity. God has forgiven me of more than most will ever know and still forgives me daily. Because of Him, I have hope and love life because it is a gift from Him. There was a time when I said that there was no God, but when I decided to open my mind to the possibility that I could be wrong, He forgave my stupidity and forgave me. So I blog from my heart, from my experiences, and my warped sense of humor. Thanks for giving your time to read. To the person in England, we drink sweet iced tea on this side of the pond, and thanks for the prayers.
Now that my blog is international, my next goal is go inter-planetary. To boldly go where no blog has gone before!