Posts tagged ‘hurt’

January 22, 2013

Liar Liar

by pastortimfowler

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Genesis Chapter 12:10-20 is a strange story in the Bible. Abraham is going to the place that God will show him and he comes into Egypt where he thinks that something bad will happen to his wife so he lies about her and calls her his sister. He does not have to lie, for a couple of reasons. One, he has God on his side and two, his thoughts were unjustified, as we see when we read the story.
Lying is a common place in our lives. We have this idea that if we are lying for a good reason that it is justifiable. I think that all of us have lied about stuff at one time or another. Those of you who are now saying that you have not done this are now lying. Lying is one of the first sins that humans commit. We don’t have to be taught to lie, it comes natural.
The Bible says that the truth will set us free. It also tells us the Satan is the father of all lies. But, we think that lying is a tool to help us not hurt feelings. So that brings me to the purpose of this blog. If lying is so appalling to God, why do Christians think it is okay?
Abraham is the father of faith. He trusted God to go to a place that he would be shown. Trusted God to make him the father of many nations, even to the point of being willing to sacrifice his only son Isaac. But when facing the present perceived threat to his family, he lies. What I think happened is that he was in a place that was so ungodly, that He dismissed God’s protection for self-protection. When you can’t see God it is easy to turn to self for what we think is best.
Faith is about trusting even when we can’t see or don’t feel God’s presence. Faith is remembering that God is truth and truth never changes. Faith is knowing that when we are in a situation that God has put us in, we can continue to be godly, even when no one else is.
God does not want us to remove ourselves from the things of this world. Jesus lived and ate with sinners. The difference is that He never forgot to be holy. He loved those who were sinners but taught them to not sin. So God wants us to influence others as well. As soon as we give in to the temptation to lie, we give away the ability to allow our faith to shine through. We also limit our ability to show how God works through the tough situation that makes Him the one who solves our problem and not ourselves.
Lying is never the answer. It may feel better, but it will not set us free. Feelings can often be our worst enemy.
God is gracious and will never stop being the God of truth. He often works around our failures and in spite of our sin. But never confuse His love and grace for acceptance of our lack of faith and feeling as if we need to lie. Often our feeling of the need to lie is not justified, even to those who don’t believe. In Abraham’s case the ungodly king was the one who reminded Abraham that God was who He was. I think far more people who claim to not be Christians still know in their hearts that there is a God. They are just looking to see if those of us who publicly say that we believe will allow our faith in action to match our words.
Don’t fall into the trap of thinking that lying is okay. Tell the truth and live it and watch how God is faithful and true. Jesus said, ” I am the Way, the Truth, and the Life…”

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August 28, 2012

Just A Footnote

by pastortimfowler

I can’t remember feeling as crappy, emotionally, as I did yesterday and even some today, since Abby died. I keep thinking, but she was just a dog. But, I loved her and wanted the best for her and spent 12 years of my life taking care of her. Before I forget, thanks to all those who said kind words, I at least know I am not crazy (no wise cracks needed).
I told my neighbor about Abby and he said that he knew how I must feel, because He had said goodbye to several dogs in his 80 years. That really made me think.
Dogs lives are much shorter than ours. It is not uncommon to own several dogs in our lifetime and each one of them we can love and get very attached too. Because I still have another dog, I don’t think I will get another one for a while. But one day, I think I would like too. So why do we put ourselves through this if we know the hurt that comes from losing something we love and know that chances are we will feel that hurt again?
As I was driving to the church this morning I was thinking about this and God gave me a wonderful thought. If I can love a dog as much as I did, how much more do you think I (God) love you? I was a bit overwhelming. But think of the similarities. God knows that we are going to die before He does; He is eternal. God knows that we are totally dependent on Him and His provision. God knows that we are going to get into the trash and occasionally make other messes. But He continually lets others be born and born again and loves us despite us being “just humans”.
He loves us so much that He accepts us and makes a way for us to know Him and His love and expects very little from us. I believe that He knows that pain of death, after all, Jesus died a real physical death for us. And, let’s not forget that Jesus wept at the death of His friend Lazarus. So I am thinking that it is okay feel so sucky about Abby dying. But I get a lifetime of memories and 12 years of experience of loving something who only loved me because I first loved her.
Love is a wonderful thing to experience, especially when it is unconditional. God’s love is unconditional and He knows our pain. But better yet, He knows that death is not the end. As for dogs, I don’t what happens after they die. Something tells me I don’t have to worry, God has that in control too. So I will lean toward thinking Abby is looking out the window of heaven waiting for me to come home, just as she did everyday while she was here.
I am very grateful for God’s love and that He let me in on this little secret; If you give love away, you will never be sorry that you didn’t.

August 22, 2012

Forgive It

by pastortimfowler

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2 Corinthians 2:5-11
5 If someone caused distress, I’m not the one really affected. To some extent—although I don’t want to emphasize this too much—it has affected all of you.
6 The majority of you have imposed a severe enough punishment on that person.
7 So now forgive and comfort him. Such distress could overwhelm someone like that if he’s not forgiven and comforted.
8 That is why I urge you to assure him that you love him.
9 I had also written to you to test you. I wanted to see if you would be obedient in every way.
10 If you forgive someone, so do I. Indeed, what I have forgiven, if I have forgiven anything, I did in the presence of Christ for your benefit.
11 I don’t want Satan to outwit us. After all, we are not ignorant about Satan’s scheming.

The Apostle Paul is talking to a church who is not forgiving one of its members. I am not sure what was done, but what I do know, because of his other teachings, is that this person must have asked for others to forgive. You see, it is biblical that if you have wronged someone who you should ask for the forgiveness and if you ask another Christian, they are required to give the forgiveness. If someone does not ask, there is no repentance, and no forgiveness is required to be given. I am sure that someone is going to challenge me on this, but I am talking about a situation that is being dealt with in this church and this spans both letters that Paul wrote to the church at Corinth.
Forgiveness is one of the hardest things for anybody to do. When we get hurt, it is somehow in us to return the hurt rather than forgiving. Sure, some of this comes from that person not asking, but far too often I hear people saying that they just won’t forgive.

Paul says that in the case where it has been asked, and withheld, we risk overwhelming that person. Later in this same letter Paul states that Christians have been given the ministry of reconciliation. In other words, we are to fix broken relationships, not shatter the pieces even further, making things beyond repair. So when we are asked to forgive, we should, and in that, we strengthen that person and encourage that same pattern of forgiveness and reconciliation.
Paul tells them that by forgiving, they are assuring that person of the love they have from us. It is easy to love those who treat us right. Anyone can do that. But Christians are supposed to love like Christ loves, and we must remember that while we were still His enemy, Christ died for us, showing His love. Love is not warm fuzzy feelings and never having to say you are sorry. Love is patient, kind, not selfish and doesn’t keep track of wrongs, according to the Bible.
Far too many Christians miss being like Jesus when they don’t forgive. Many others miss feeling the love of Jesus by not asking for the forgiveness. Forgiveness is the act of giving up our right to be angry and instead of holding a grudge, hold our relationship with people higher than our pride. Far too many marriages crumble because they are too busy pointing the finger of blame rather than opening the arms in love.

I encourage you to ask if you need forgiveness and give it when asked. Satan wants Christians to hold grudges and act like we don’t love people. Paul says that we should not be outwitted and that we should know that this unforgiveness thing is part of Satan’s scheme. Kick Satan in the butt and forgive. You will be more like Christ if you do, and something tells me that you will feel better than if you continue to hold that grudge.

June 21, 2011

2nd Hand Alcohol

by pastortimfowler

I went to see a friend’s mom in the hospital yesterday because she was in a really bad wreck over the weekend. Sadly, a drunk driver crossed the median of the interstate and hit her car causing it to roll over and sending her to the ICU via helicopter. Just a couple of days after being there, she was removed from ICU and put into a regular room as she continues to improve.
As I walked into the room, I was surprised to see that she had no facial injuries, not even a bruise. Her daughter was showing me the pictures of the car and how it was crushed, especially on the driver’s side and we were both amazed at how anyone could have survived this. But I believe God wrapped his hands around her and protected her from any worse injuries.
So my reason for writing this is total disgust that there is not more outrage in America about the effects of what I like to call 2nd hand alcohol. 2nd hand alcohol is directly and undeniably responsible for more injuries and deaths in this country, and probably the world than 2nd hand smoke will ever be. Yet goody two shoes, nose in everyone’s business, I wanna feel gooders, raise all kinds of stink about the effects of 2nd hand smoke, and to be honest, the evidence is questionable at best at the amount of harm it does.
Our government has put restriction after restriction on who can smoke and where they can smoke and who can be around you when they smoke. They raise taxes to unthinkable levels all to restrict a free society from doing something that is perfectly legal, all because they can give a lab rat cancer by exposing it to 4000 times the normal amount of smoke it could possibly receive from a cigarette. There has never been one proven case of cancer in a human from 2nd hand smoke.
This is where I need to say that I don’t smoke cigarettes and don’t encourage anyone to smoke them. I am simply saying that if it is legal and you have to work that hard to show the dangers to others, perhaps it isn’t as dangerous as some would like it to be. BUT!!!
Alcohol kills others. No if, ands, or butts, about it, people die from the effects of others drinking. If they don’t die they end up in ICU’s with families worried sick about their loved one and wondering how and when they will make a full recovery. Alcohol causes more domestic violence than smoking, more automobile wrecks than smoking, and even causes more house fires than smoking. But I would not be surprised to see alcohol served at the meetings of the holier than thou bureaucrats who talk about the dangers of 2nd hand smoke.
If we are going to get serious about protecting our citizens, we need to stop trying to prove our pet peeves and start dealing with facts, like them or not. 2nd hand alcohol is the reason for my parents divorce, and they both smoked. 2nd hand alcohol was the reason I became an alcoholic at a young age and nearly ruined my marriage. 2nd hand alcohol was the reason for approximately 10000 deaths on our highways this year. More women and children are physically abused each month through 2nd hand alcohol than ever through 2nd hand smoke.
Sure alcohol is legal and I have no problem with someone who drinks and remains in control. The problem is that there is a fine line between you controlling alcohol and it controlling you. I have never been called to the hospital to visit a person who was hurt by a smoker, although I can picture a few scenarios in which that can happen. But I have been and continue to be called to comfort people who have been killed or injured by a drunk.
I pray for those who are enslaved to alcohol. If you or someone you know is abusing alcohol, get help. I am so glad that my friends mom is not dead and should make a full recovery. But her life and her family’s life weren’t the only ones ruined. There is a young man sitting in jail who will have to live with this the rest of his life. It was his 2nd hand alcohol that did the damage to my friend’s life.