Posts tagged ‘game’

September 25, 2012

Replacement Refs

by pastortimfowler

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The big talk today is about the horrible calls by the replacement refs in this years NFL season, especially last night’s game that cost Green Bay a win. I have to admit that it was one of the most bizarre finishes to a game that I have ever seen. But, what do you expect when you try to replace the best with anything else? There is a reason why the NFL refs are there. It is the same reason the players are there; They are the best at what they do.
I hate to jump on people who are only doing the best that they can. I absolutely do not believe that these refs purposefully made bad calls. After all, many of them are trying to get their big break in order to make it to the big leagues. They are performing to the level that most of us will never achieve and they are doing it under a whole lot of pressure. Even the best make mistakes and blow it from time to time. I guess the real question should be, what is going on and how do you fix it so that the best come back?
But here is the point that I want to make. Are you training someone up to do what you do? Now I am not talking about everything being replaced such as a mom or dad or spouse, but rather in your job or at church or in something that you are responsible for accomplishing.
Many times when I counsel couples, they say stuff like, “he never helps with the children” or “she never helps with the yard work”. Could it be that they don’t know how? Often after the loss of a loved one to divorce or death, there is a spouse who does not know how to pay the bills or get groceries or take care of the kids, so maybe we are talking about everything being replaced. I know that at church there are lots of times when someone is out due to illness or vacation and no one knows what to do in their absence. So we tell everyone at our church to train up their replacement.
Maybe you are not training someone because you feel like if you are replaced, you won’t feel needed. But if you are doing it for that reason, then maybe your motivation is wrong. I appreciate it when someone in a position that is vital to things going smoothly is out and I don’t notice it because the person that filled in for them did an excellent job. Even if they did not do the job to the same level of expertise, the fact that they were there and could do the job at all is awesome. And, over time, they will get better and we will grow and there will be an opportunity for more people to do ministry and more people will be needed to fill in. That is healthy.
But far to often, we look at things with the glass half empty mentality. We should start being happy that there is someone who can ensure that things continue rather than come to a screeching halt. Maybe we need to be grateful for replacement refs because we are football fans rather than football critiques. Maybe we should be grateful when our spouse or kid cuts the grass even if they missed a spot. Maybe we should be thankful for supper being cooked, even if it doesn’t taste like mom’s cooking. Maybe we should be fans of those who do the job to the best of their ability and save the criticism for those who never lift a finger to help.
Remember that all of us were once less than proficient at what we do. There has only been one perfect person and He got nailed to a cross. But He also started training up some replacements who we all know don’t do it as well as He did. But God is our biggest fan and really loves the fact that the game did not stop when Jesus was away. Instead of stopping the game, He made a way for us to keep on playing.
So as we wait for the real refs to return, lets enjoy the fact that at least we get to watch the game. At least someone was trained well enough to fill in. At least someone trained the replacements well enough to allow for them to step up when others were stepping down.
Please Lord, let me be thankful for those who are doing the best that they can and let me be more of a fan than a complainer.

November 21, 2011

New Fan

by pastortimfowler

This past Saturday I took my 6-year-old grandson to his first USC Gamecock football game in Columbia SC. He already likes the Gamecocks but knows very little, if anything, about football. Because this was a game that they were supposed to easily win, and they did, I figured that it would be a safe bet to go to this one in case he lost interest and we had to leave. He didn’t, and we stayed the whole game and had a blast.
In a stadium with 80,000 screaming fans it is not the place to try to teach a 6-year-old about football. I tried. It is a great place to teach a 6-year-old how many different ways that you can mold cotton candy before you eat it. I also discovered that stadium cotton candy, by weight, is more valuable than gold. One bag that weight of almost nothing was $5.00. We had two bags and a bucket of popcorn the size of a new Prius and pizza that was older than most Priusessesseessss.
I am not rich, but I need to be if I am going to keep taking grandkids to the Gamecock football games. Between tickets and food and parking, my wife and I now live in her mini-van. Thank goodness it is bigger than a Prius.
Most everywhere we take our 6-year-old grandson he has to use the bathroom, and this was no different. As we entered the stadium there were rows of port-a-potties set up for the fans who were waiting to come in. He wanted to use them. I said no, we will go once we are inside. I am not prejudice against port-a-potties, I just want better for my grandson. Some of my best friends use port-a-potties. So once inside and after we ate the pizza left over from the first ever game held in Williams-Brice Stadium, we went to the bathroom. It started off with the normal walk toward that urinal and then panic set in on my grandson’s face. This was the first time he had ever seen the public pee trough. Sorry ladies, but that is what us guys get in many stadiums; a metal trough with water running and drains along the bottom.
Most little boys are not to worried about where they pee. In fact, most are perfectly fine with a tree or a bush. Give them your typical toilet bowl and they will pee on the floor half of the time. Give them a chance to basically pee on the floor on purpose and it really freaks them out. But we made it through the experience and he learned the what every man learns: the brick wall stare.
Did you know that most colleges have male cheerleaders? He didn’t. Did you know that those male cheerleaders spend a lot of time touching girls butts and looking up their dresses? He didn’t. Did you know that there is no good way for a 6-year-old to really understand that it is okay but he shouldn’t do it?
Did you know that the chicken can dance? Did you know that the chicken doesn’t touch girls butts and look up their dresses? I do now.
Did you know that if you try to explain everything that a 6-year-old boy notices in a stadium filled with 80,000 people who you will not see every play, especially the really good ones? Did you know that it is hard to explain why everyone gets excited when your team gets a first down when all the time the cheerleaders are asking us, “whadaya want? TD, What’s that? touchdown”?
Did you know that the poor fellow who was sitting beside us was really a patient guy because my 6-year-old grandson can talk to a tree if he had to?
Did you know that the cotton candy guy in the section below you could throw the cotton candy to us? Well he can’t but 6 year olds know more than I do and waiting for one of those guys to come to our section is not worth the wait when I could miss some of the game to go to the concession stand and get some.
Sorry for all the questions, I just wanted to share the joy.
We did make it through the game and we won and he told me that it was awesome to get to come to the game with me and that makes it all worth while. Hopefully, the Gamecocks truly have a new fan now. I know the cotton candy guy does.