Posts tagged ‘baby’

May 31, 2012

Welcome To This World, Coraline!

by pastortimfowler

baby feet close up!

I went to see my friend and his wife and their new baby last night. It was their first child and they were thrilled. I love seeing first time parents with their new babies, especially the dad. In this case, the baby was delivered via “C-section, so mom was still under the influence of the pain meds. They had both seen the baby in the delivery room, but she had not yet been brought from the nursery into their room yet. The nurse had been in checking on mom and said that they were going to bring the baby in a few minutes. At that time it was only me and the parents in the room. Some of the immediate family were on their way and showed up right before they brought the baby in, but I got to hang out with them by myself for a few minutes.
I don’t know mom that well. I have met her a few times but never had the privilege of hanging out and getting to know her. I play cards with dad once a month and have done so for over two years. Because I don’t know her that well I won’t make fun of mom and some of the things I observed as she enjoyed the pain meds. But that is one of the fun things about visiting a mom who just delivered via cesarean. They think that they are acting normal, but they are not.
Dad was trying real hard to act normal, but you can’t after your first child is born. You would think that they shared the pain meds with dad sometimes by the way they act. Of course I never acted goofy when my kids were born because, well, have you met my kids? This guy was doing pretty good though. He showed me pictures from right after the birth. Very few babies are cute then, to outsiders, but to dad they are gorgeous. Cesarean babies do look better than those born the other way. Those babies look like cone head aliens, to outsiders, but normal to parents. This was a cute baby. I watched the pride swell with each picture he showed me. It is a special moment.
For a few minutes the conversation went from the tough delivery to our next card game and then back to how beautiful the baby is and finally the family came in. I don’t like to hog time from family in any situation that involves a hospital. So I decided to wait until they brought the baby in and get a look at her in person and then head out so the family could have their time. Suddenly the door opened and the nurse came wheeling in the bed with this gift from God in it. They picked her up and handed her to mom and then I got to see that moment that is worth a million moments. It is the one where dad stands next to his wife who is holding their new-born child and he tries with all he has to smile, but tears just start flowing down his face as pride and joy and reality overwhelm him.
With that memory firmly etched in my mind I went over and hugged him and told mom that everything was awesome and bid farewell to the family I had just met. I knew that I had just seen the greatest life changing event a man can go through, other than knowing God. I believe that it is hard to look at this event in life and not consider that something this awesome just doesn’t happen without the God of love that I believe in. It never gets old and never ceases to amaze me how a grown man can be turned into a speechless and weeping ball of emotions all because of a little baby. I always thank God for that experience and hope that He never stops blessing me with the chance to see His gifts of children being brought into this world.
Congratulations Dru and Wendy! Welcome to this world Coraline. (Yes, I spelled that right)

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March 20, 2012

Dogs and Sonar

by pastortimfowler

 

The city we live in is going through our neighborhood and getting rid of the above ground utilities and putting everything underground. For the last few weeks they have had our road down to a one lane road most of the day. Yesterday they were drilling under our yard and I just happened to be home when they started. There was a guy who had a portable sonar that he was using to detect water and sewage lines so that they did not drill through them as they buried the power lines. As he was walking toward our fence, our dogs began to bark and so I went outside to assist. The guy told me that he needed to walk through our yard to monitor the drilling and asked if the dogs would bite. I quickly said yes, but not if I am here. So I stood there as he slowly walked, following this drill that no one else could see. And he could only see what his instrument said was there, but he seemed to trust it.
I was in the Navy for 9 years and I understand sonar. It uses sound waves find objects that are either under water or under ground or in some cases, in a belly. It always amazes me how clear and detailed the pictures that can be gotten from using sonar. If you have ever seen the face of a baby in the mother’s womb, you are familiar with what I am talking about. But for whatever reason I was not confident in the device, especially as they were getting to close to my water and sewage lines.
Needless to say, my concerns were short-lived and they passed under our lines with no problems. My dogs held true to my statement that they would not bite while I was there and we still have a few more weeks of a one lane road. In the end we will not have poles with power lines running up and down our road and I am sure that everyone will be thrilled with that.
This morning I was thinking about this and it reminded me of this verse from the Bible: 1 Samuel 16:7 But the LORD told Samuel, “Don’t look at his appearance or how tall he is, because I have rejected him. God does not see as humans see. Humans look at outward appearances, but the LORD looks into the heart.” So many times we think that what we feel can’t be seen by anyone, but that is not true. God has the ability to see our hearts. No, I am not talking about our physical heart, but that part of every human that desires to know that someone cares.
We spend our lives in search of someone who cares about us. We want someone to understand who we are and what we are feeling. Often we find a friend or a family member who understands us and sympathizes and we feel comforted. But sometimes we feel as if no one is there that can truly know what we are going through. I believe that God has put that feeling inside of us in hopes that we will turn to Him. He can understand because He can see our hearts.
God uses many ways to try to reach out to people. He uses His people, but people often fail. He uses nature, the old theory that says that where there is a creation there must be a creator. But we are often to busy to see the obvious. But then that is the heart and the heart cannot be denied. Something deep inside that says that there has to be more than this.
My old mentor use to say that God calls and we often turn and walk away, so when all else fails, He will put us flat on our backs so that we have no other choice but to look up. Of course those who look at things as half empty will say that God is cruel to let someone get that low. But knowing what we all know about human nature, we are stubborn and hard-headed, sometimes people who love us have to yell scream and eventually grab us and shake us to get our attention and they do it because they love us. God loves us more.
Not being able to see God makes it difficult to trust God. I could not see the water and sewer lines running under my yard. I had an idea that they were there and knew the general location but they were deep inside the ground. Someone with a power that I did not have, was able to clearly see what I could not and understand my concerns, and control the situation to help me feel better about something that I didn’t even tell them was bothering me.
Because God can see the hearts, He is able to do things that no one else can. He can guide us through the troubled times and make what is on the inside that worries us become nothing but a story of how He fixed what we could not. But there is something that could have changed it all.
Remember the dogs. Like a mail carrier, this guy could have chosen to not come in my yard because of the dogs and the whole thing would have been delayed. Sure, eventually they would have caught me at home, probably by leaving a note on the fence telling me of the situation, but that would have made the other problem of a one lane road go on longer. Sometimes we have dogs to protect us and that is okay, but when that protection becomes a hindrance to someone who can help us with a problem that the dogs can’t prevent, we need to make the right decision to call off the defenses and let that person in. So stop letting the dogs out every time that God wants to help and let Him in. You can keep the dogs, but don’t let the dogs keep you from meeting a God who only wants to help.

March 2, 2012

Child Addiction

by pastortimfowler

My wife is addicted to little children. Our own children are grown and cannot or will not produce babes fast enough for her. So she has a plan to have every baby and little kid at our church think that she is their Mimi too. I am pretty sure that this is not dangerous, but I do think it is an addiction.
Last night she went to help a couple with a baby that is only a month or so old. Both of them are sick and they are new parents and they were just worn out. My wife is a very compassionate woman. She will help almost anyone. But when she sees an opportunity to hold and spoil a baby she quickly jumps to feed her habit. I got the call that she was going to their house about an hour before she got off from work and was told that they were desperate and needed her help. I immediately knew that she just needed a baby fix.
Guess what she is doing tonight? Going to visit our son who lives a couple of hours from here so that she can “help” them. And guess what they have at their house? Yep. A baby. She is staying there for the weekend and my suspicion is that she is gonna be so wired up on baby that she won’t be able to drive home and that is why she is staying the weekend. She really does not know how to take babies in moderation. As an ex addict myself, not to babies, I know the signs. You always try to justify what you are doing, but no matter how much you try you always end up over indulging. There have been times when she would come home from “helping a friend” and she would smell like baby or small child.
Don’t misunderstand, she is not dangerous and I am not scared of her when she is using. Rarely has she ever missed work and she has never lost a job because of it. She has never threatened me seriously with violence and for the most part it does not interfere with our marriage. There are times when I will choose to sleep on the couch because she is so strung out on babies and children, but it has not approached the point to where it threatens our relationship. From time to time she will stretch the truth about her habit. The other week she said that she was only going to have one or two kids and it ended up being six kids at once. I can tell you that one kid will take the edge off, but she is not satisfied until she is totally loaded with kids.
She tries to limit getting children from only people that she knows. Family and friends are her biggest suppliers. But she will quickly run to anyone who comes into our church with a child and try to, as she likes to call it, “love on them”. I have seen her trying to talk to strangers about their children but for now, I feel she can restrain herself.
I have to watch her closely. We cannot have children anymore. I thought that doctor had fixed the problem, but occasionally she will mention adopting. I am strong for her and I remind her that she is an addict and does not need children in the house all the time. Sure, I should probably put my foot down and get her some help, but without children, she can be difficult to live with, so I turn a blind eye and just try to help manage her addiction.

October 12, 2011

Dru To Be Daddy

by pastortimfowler

I just heard today that a good friend of mine Dru, and his wife are expecting a baby. It is one of the sweetest times a couple can ever share. There is something about that news that never gets old and almost always brings great joy to those who hear it. I thought that I would give a few bits of advice to my friend and you can feel free to share it with others who are new-found parents.
First: prepare for the next few months to be crazy, but remember it is only nine months. Pregnant women are moody. They want to eat weird food at all hours and then cry because they are gaining weight, even if the doctor says she is right on track. If you tell her she is showing, she will cry, if you don’t, she will say you don’t care. You can’t win, so get use to it.
Second: prepare for lots of sleepless nights. Babies will cry and do their best to mix up their nights and days and you will suffer the loss. But, this only lasts a few months and pretty soon they will they figure out that sleeping is far better than the stupid things you will try to do to keep them quite and put them back to sleep.
Third: enjoy the baby years because the terrible twos are, well about two years away. Once a child begins to walk and talk they also learn to play one parent against the next. They learn manipulation and mind control and can and will embarrass when you least expect it.
Forth: Children always grow up but they never go away. NEVER.
Fifth: This is the greatest experience you will ever experience. You can only fully understand this when you look back in 20 years and every hard time will be worth it and every laugh will be louder and every tear will be worth it.
The Bible says that children are a blessing straight from God. If there is anything that I know beyond a shadow of a doubt, it is this. Children are the greatest source of joy, the greatest source of love and the greatest thrill of you life, so enjoy it. They grow up way too fast. But if you are as blessed as I am, you will get the greater blessing of grand-children.
Congratulations! Life as you know will soon cease to exist.

August 9, 2011

Granny Has A Gun

by pastortimfowler

What an eye-opening experience I had yesterday. I am not sure how close together it happened, but my wife had it too. We both realized, not out of ignorance, but rather out of amazement, that as of now, all of our children have children of their own. I am not sure why it was so mind-blowing but it was. We have been very blessed with the fact that we have great children of our own and now each one of them have given us a grandchild. I never dreamed that one day I would be looking at having three children and each of them with children. WOW!.
Proverbs 17:6 Grandchildren are the crown of grandparents, and parents are the glory of their children. How true this is. Even though I have been a grandparent for about 7 years now, this never gets old. But seeing the youngest of your own children having his first is pretty cool.
I often get worried about what kind of world they will grow up in. I worried the same about my kids, but they had an awesome dad. My two sons can only hope to be as awesome a dad as I am, and my daughter was never going to find someone good enough for her or to father my grandkids. But that is what my father in law said about me and he was wrong. Some how I think they will all exceed my expectations though.
But we do live in a world that is much more unstable and much less friendly to children. With the invention of the internet, child predators are coming out in groves and it means that parents must be on their toes more. Our kids are really good parents, but I still worry. I guess it would only be fair that I should let every child predator know that I am a Christian. This means that I am forgiven of every sin that I ever have or ever will commit. Although this does not give me a license to sin, it does give me the peace of knowing that if I snap and kill some pervert who would ever even attempt to hurt my grandkids, that I would still go to heaven. And in case someone might be thinking that I don’t have it in me to do such a thing, I should also tell you that I received my marksmanship medal after achieving a perfect score while I was in the military and I still practice regularly. Not only do I have a hand gun, but I carry it, loaded. What would be even worse is if my wife got a hold of you. She too is an expert shot, but she is much meaner than I am when it comes to our grandchildren.
Sorry for chasing that rabbit, but it felt good.
God has blessed me with so much and I don’t know why, other than He is just an awesome God who loves us more than we can understand. Every time I see a newborn baby I marvel at His ability to create life and then to think that He entrusts me to have a part in raising that life. It is a tall order, but I love stepping into the responsibility. I think I am going to pray that everyone gets to experience having grandkids.
So quickly let me tell you a few things that were incredible yesterday when Bryson was born.
Watching my son agonized over his wife in labor.
Watching my son walk into the room holding his newborn son.
Watching my daughter in law weep tears of joy as she held him.
Watching my wife glow with pride and love as she held Bryson and then as she held our son.
Watching Bryson look at me as I held him. He smiled bigger then than any other time that day.
Seeing Bryson wear his Gamecock ‘boggin’ as he was smiling at me.
Watching all the responses from so many of you as you sent your congratulations.
Thanks for the support and prayers. Thank God for His love and blessing.

August 8, 2011

Welcome Bryson Daniel Fowler

by pastortimfowler

It is hard to fathom that today our 7th grandchild was born. Bryson Daniel Fowler, was born via C-section at 3:39pm today. He weighed 7lbs 3ozs and was almost 20 inches long. Mom and baby are doing fine, dad is a bit rattled but expected to pull through. Papa is doing fine and should not suffer any ill effects until Mimi starts to spoil him.
God has blessed me beyond my ability to understand. All of my children now have children and they are all awesome! No matter how hard I try, I am at a loss for words to describe this feeling. So I guess I will just say praise God!
Sadly we will have to drive home tonight, but the weekend will be here before we know it and we will be back.
Thanks to everyone for your prayers. Thanks to God for a healthy baby boy! Welcome, Bryson, we are thrilled to have you here!

August 2, 2011

Where Do Babies Come From

by pastortimfowler

The other day I received a note from one of the mom’s at our church who was telling me that her child was asking that scary question of where do babies come from. Most parents face that question and fear that they will say the wrong thing that will scare their child away from ever having children and therefore the world’s population will gradually decrease until there are no people left on earth. Right?
I have heard some really weird answers to that question. The one I dislike the most is the stork. Storks are not baby carriers. They do not have the neck muscles that would be needed for such a task. Even if they did, their skinny legs would snap upon landing and if that happened around a pond or river, like where you see most storks, then the baby is likely to float off and be raised by a family of wolves or snapping turtles.

My parents told me that I was found under a cabbage leaf. I thought that this was a good explanation until I was old enough to actually smell cabbage cooking and see where it came from. If you have never smelled cabbage cooking, then you can’t understand this. It stinks! No baby would ever be found near something that has the capability of stinking so much while it is being cooked. The other problem with this is that cabbage is grown in open gardens in dirt. This leaves the possibility of the baby being carried away by deer or rabbits and then growing up thinking it is okay to jump in front of moving cars, or to be sucked into the ground by worms.
Most parents who are shooting for the honesty thing tell their children that babies come from mommy’s belly. That is not true because that is only where the baby stays until it is time to be born, meaning it had to have been put there somehow. Kids are not that stupid and will eventually ask about this.
Many kids are told that the doctor put the baby there to grow and will take it out when it is ready. I would never let my wife go back to the doctor that put a baby in her belly because I know the truth. Secondly, not all babies come out of the belly directly. It is only in recent modern medical history that this could be true. The caesarean birth is not the original way for babies to get out and thus we are stretching the truth a bit if that is all we tell the children.
That leaves telling the children about sex as an option. Then we have to decide if it is worth the anxiety this causes us. Most kids don’t really care about the mechanics of sex, but for some reason we think that we need to get way more graphic than we should, causing anxiety, and resulting in us saying something like, “the stork brings them”.
Christians default to God as the one who puts babies in bellies. This would be fine if we are talking about Mary, the mother of Jesus, but most of us did not marry, Mary. The Bible does say that all children are a gift from God, but He allows us to have a bit of fun to make those gifts. So what now? What are we going to tell those pesky little kids who ask those tough questions?
Much is dependent on how old they are when they ask. If they were below the age of 12, I told my kids to go ask their mother. If they were over they age of 12, I told them that this was so important that it would require us to spend two or three hours a day together talking for a few months, at least. That sent them running to play video games and me never having to talk to them again about anything serious.
Seriously, unless you want your child learning from his or her older, “smart” friend, the best thing that you can do is tell them the truth and keep it age appropriate. Most kids who grow up to be adults figure out where babies come from, but sadly they go through much unnecessary experimenting to find out. The Bible is full of examples of people having sex in order to create a baby. That might be a great place to start, reading the Bible. Whoda thunk it?
Do not be afraid to answer the question, where do babies come from?

June 24, 2011

What Will We Eat For Lunch?

by pastortimfowler

My youngest son and his wife are on their way to see us and have a baby shower tomorrow. She is due to have our 7th grandchild, a boy, in August. They live in Florence which is about 2 hrs from here, 1hr 5minutes if my favorite wife is driving. Because of our work schedules it has been really tough getting to see them, so this will be awesome.
It is hard to believe that our youngest is getting ready to have a child. They have been married for several years and between school and jobs have traveled most of their married life. Now he seems to have landed his dream job and settled down and they are ready to have 10-15 children and start a small farm. I can’t wait to have some fresh bacon and eggs picked right off the vine!
I know that many of you are still in awe that I am a grandfather. Actually, now that I read that word “grandfather” I don’t like the sound of it and prefer the term “those kid’s dad’s dad”. You may not be aware of this but my wife is older than I am. I was a child when we met and I was actually sold to her off a Russian bride/groom website. It was my 12th birthday when we got married and although I was scared, she wanted children right away and that explains the reason that I already have grandkids.
It was funny how in the early years she use to call me her “fine breedin’ stock” and how she use to giggle as I blushed…but that is another blog for another time.
I have lived a blessed life until now. No, I don’t expect it to change, but I am sure of my past. I have a great wife, who practically raised me too, great kids, who are all beautiful like their dad, and yes, even grandkids. I know that God has given me favor, because I prayed that each of my children would have a child just like them and so far, so good. I can’t wait to see how this one is going to turn out. He will probably be musically inclined, have great taste in women, love to fish, and like to tell on his siblings when they have the next 10 or so. He will love to play games with his dad and practically worship the ground that he walks on. Because this son was our “good child” it will be hard to name too many annoying things that the grandson should do.
No matter what he is like, I am super stoked about seeing him for the first time. No, I don’t consider that thing that looked like mom had swallowed a jelly bean, a real picture. I’m talking the little smiling, slobbering, face after he comes out of hiding. I am sure that he will continue the trend of great looking Fowler men who dazzle the world with their smile and woo the women, no matter how much older they are.
I live a blessed life. I am not sure what I did to deserve it, but I’ll take it. God’s grace is so awesome!
I just got a text and they are close. I wonder what we will eat for lunch?