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July 10, 2012

True Friends

by pastortimfowler

Today I was asked to give a friend a ride to work. When I picked him up, his dad said, “Make sure you give him some gas money”. I appreciate the gesture, but refused the money. This friend was a young man who just graduated and working his first job. His parents have one car and sometimes they run into a conflict with work schedules and need transportation help. So I thought I would let him know that because I did not need gas money to help him, I was not going to accept any from him. My hope is that he will remember that when someone asks him to help and a similar situation arises.
True friends are valuable and hard to find. I am not talking about the kind of friends that are just people you know and like. I am talking about a friend that is there for you through thick and thin and one that you can trust even in the toughest times. This type of friend is rare and valuable and takes time to develop.
I believe many people have that one person who they think is a true friend but when they are needed, they charge them for gas. It is usually a person that you have known for a while and been through many similar things together, or should I say at the same time gone through something together. School produces a lot of these so-called friends. But they are not willing to sacrifice for you and I believe sacrifice is a vital key to a true friendship.
Social media has been a hindrance to the development of this type of friends. Texting and Facebook and Twitter allow for constant contact at the spur of the moment but often displaces personal time that friends must have to know each other in a deeper way. We tend to be friends in this era with those who like the same trends and follow the same pages and forward the funny videos. But this does not make for a true friend.
Here is what a true friend is all about. It is about investing in someone else’s life to better their well-being. A true friend knows you personally. They know what makes you happy, sad, stressed, or relaxed. They know your hardships and know your dreams for success. They are willing to give without expecting anything in return because they know that you would do the same thing. They will text and facebook and tweet you, but nothing can replace a good sit down, face to face talk. They care about your job, your health, your marriage, your kids, and your relationships with others. They are there whenever you need them and aren’t offended when you need time alone. They don’t leave when you have a bad day, week, or month, because they know that life is tough and true friends are in it for life, not just a good time.
My perfect example of a friend is Jesus. He said that he would stick closer than a brother. He doesn’t disown you if you aren’t what He expects you to be. He allows you to be real and always listens when you need to talk. He said that there was no greater love that one could have than to lay down his life for a friend and then He laid down His life for us as an example of that kind of love. He doesn’t expect us to be perfect, He loves anyway. He is our friend even when we are anything but good. His friendship is not based on what we can do for Him but rather what He can do for us. Jesus is a true friend.

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